Dating for people with no children
But I wondered if finding those connections is as easy for women with children as it is for those without.
If, heaven forbid, I suddenly found myself single, would my profile today be as appealing to a potential partner as it was in 2007 when I didn't have 3-year-old twins attached to my hips?
Then after surgery, my husband and I heard the doctor tell us, “I’m sorry, but you can’t ever have children of your own.” We were stunned. Burdened by my husband’s pain, I suggested we divorce so he could find a wife who could have his children. Amazingly, I experienced a lightness and spaciousness of being freed from limitation.
I had the possibility of creating a completely different future for myself.
I never understood why women who want kids of their own wait decades.
I move fast though, I tend to ask for kids after 6 months to a year together. For me, being a mother was of the highest importance. There are health risks for the mother and the baby after a certain age.
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Although Tinder sounded fun, there isn't a way for potential matches to know whether or not I have children before they decide to choose my photo.Eight years together, and I've never once questioned the accuracy of online dating.It isn't an anomaly anymore when you hear that so-and-so met their fiancé/significant other/booty call on Tinder/OK Cupid/Match/Plenty of Fish.I was a bit reluctant about those posts at first, because the chapter was written for an academic volume, but they were popular reads here.That chapter is now in print, except for a long section I wrote on the implications of living single with no children. So I’m going to share it here, in a series of four posts. The four parts may not be consecutive: if something timely comes up, I’ll give that priority.